WHAT IS Conscious Uncoupling™?

A better way to break up.

Conscious Uncoupling is a five step program developed by Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT. It’s designed to help people break up in a way that does the least amount of damage possible for those separating, their children and loved ones. Separating from a love relationship often spurs us into a primitive rage, a need to avenge and even break something. It’s all very normal. We are actually biologically built that way. Conscious Uncoupling will help you harness those difficult emotions and redirect them into something constructive, rather than destructive. It’s about turning toward your feelings rather than away from them, learning new skills and capacities to be in a healthy and happy relationship. It’s easier said than done, I know. But it is possible, and I can help you. A better future is around the corner. It requires commitment to a higher intention, willpower to release the old story, and courage to look at our part in it.

RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT END PEACEFULLY,
DO NOT END AT ALL.

- Merrit Malloy-

No one thinks about separating when they are happy and in love. We believe in paradise. Ending a relationship can feel like the end of the world. Everything you built on is gone. You are lost, scared, and your future is at stake. But these feelings won’t last forever and you will be happy again.

At the time of turmoil

Separation or a divorce always brings us to a crossroads. We have to choose which way we take. One way is: we throw in the towel, give up on love and seal our hearts from future pain by closing it tight with anger and resentment.

But then there is the other way: The possibility to grow beyond that tragic story, to understand the meaning and purpose of how things went down as they did.
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What’s good about a good break up?

Can’t you just shut the door behind and hope that things will be different next time? Sure, you can, but the likelihood of ending up in the same type of dynamic in the next relationship is very high.
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Steps